Monday, December 15, 2014

Wife No. 19 by Ann Eliza Young

I recently read Wife No. 19 by Ann Eliza Young.  

This was her account of life in the early times of the LDS church and her experience being the 19th wife of Brigham Young, the prophet of the LDS church at the time.   I really enjoyed reading this book.  Ann kept my attention well throughout the book.  She does jump back and forth in time with her stories, so you have to pay attention closely.  Her story will pull at the strings attached to your heart.  If you have any interest in the culture of the LDS church at the beginning of it's creation, then this book is intended for you.  I hope you enjoy.

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

The Good Samaritan and Ordain Women

I am not a member of Ordain Women (OW). But last year I felt the need to understand better why women wanted to be ordained.  I spent months reading about it, asking those involved, and discussing the many different reasons for why they have chosen to support OW.

What I found were reasons based a lot on the inequalities between male and female members.  ALL of those reasons reflected feelings I have experienced through out my life.  I spent most of my pre-teen and teen years asking, "why do the YM/Priesthood get to do things that the YW/RS don't?"  The answers always varied, but never felt adequate.  I have spent my adult years watching the marginalization of women within the church suffocate women's identities, individuality, and the impact they could make within the church.

I support those requesting more equality within the church.  I support those who want to be accepted within the church for who they are, not what they are expected to be.   I support those who want to have women's voices actually make a difference within the church.  I support those who wish to have women and men work side-by-side in the decision making processes within the church.  I support those who believe that women have more to offer than flower arrangements, table cloths, and center pieces.  I support those that promote the idea of men and women each being responsible for their own thoughts and actions.

Knowing that I support these things and that lots of these things are some of the reasons that women are involved in OW, means that I can relate to the request of the organization.  I understand where they are coming from.   I don't have an emotional pull/need towards ordination.  I do see benefits of women being ordained.

I stood patiently in line with a couple hundred men and women requesting admission to last years October Priesthood Session.  I didn't go because I need to be ordained.  I went because I understand what each of these men and women feel.  I understand where they're coming from.  I also went because, after talking to so many people, I felt that this group was going to be grossly under-represented because many women didn't have the ability to get to the session for themselves.

In Luke 10: 25-28, Jesus was asked "what shall I do to inherit eternal life?" and with great wisdom answered with his own question, "What is written in the law? how readest thou?"  The lawyer answered saying,

"Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself."

Jesus confirmed, "Thou hast answered right: this do, and thou shalt live."  But here the lawyer didn't know who his neighbor was.  Jesus continues to explain by giving us the parable of the Good Samaritan.  Explaining that even those we disagree with, are not socially acceptable associates, or that we were taught to hate are, in fact, our neighbors.

Now here is where we all talk about the love and compassion that the Samaritan bestowed on the the man from Jerusalem.  He was a Godsend to his fellow human being; truly a miracle.  But instead of talking about the Samaritan, I'd like to talk about the man from Jerusalem.

In this story he is stripped, beaten, and left for dead.  I have never experienced this and pray I never do, but lets imagine what he is feeling.  Hurt, violated, worthless.  Then he has, not one, but multiple people see him and walk by.  These actions could solidify feelings of worthlessness, depression, and succumbing to death.

But then there is someone who stops to help.  This person cleans the mans wounds and carries him to safety where he can get the best help.  The man now might feel hope, love, support, understanding, and compassion. SAFE.

The men and women I know who are members of OW, and those who are not (myself included) but question other aspects of our LDS culture and church, feel these emotions. When members of our own church pass us by, count our concerns as unimportant, and scream hateful words at us this solidifies our feelings of worthlessness within the LDS Church.

This year, I will again be joining Ordain Women in Salt Lake City.  I will go, not because I feel the need to be ordained, but because all women need a voice within the church,  all women need a place to feel safe and secure, and all people, members and non-members alike, need never feel criticized for searching for answers.

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Christmas Spirit

I was a little concerned when this came up today on my news feed on Facebook: 

"Because we need Christmas we had better understand what it is and what it isn't. Gifts, holly, mistletoe, and red-nosed reindeer are fun as traditions, but they are not what Christmas is really all about. Christmas pertains to that glorious moment when the Son of our Father joined his divinity to our imperfect humanity." 
-Hugh W. Pinnock

I do my best to make sure my kids understand what Christmas is all about and why we celebrate it.  And in my house, it's about Jesus Christ, his birth, and all the love that he shared with everyone here on earth. However, I have to disagree with this statement of gifts, holly, mistletoe, and red-nosed reindeer not being a part of the true meaning of Christmas.  

Christmas evolves every year.  People keep old traditions, and create new traditions that fit better with their families, but I think no matter what is changed it's never the Spirit of Christmas.  I still see hope in children's eyes when they see Santa.  Santa is just another representation of love, caring and sharing of self.  I see excitement of giving when gifts are given, even from the smallest of children.  Gifts are an expression of caring and friendship for the recipient.  Holly in wreaths and decor at Christmas represent truth.  Truth in our relationships with each other.  I see love expressed under the mistletoe.  Love just beginning and love enduring many years.  Reindeer along with Santa have their place too.  They aren't just mythical creatures created to pull Santa around.  They are the mode in which Christmas spirit is delivered.  It could be through a friend, loved one, or even a stranger by way of a smile, an act of kindness, a gift, or a song.  There are many ways that the magic of Christmas can be shared.  We just choose which is best for us and our personality.

I hope during this Christmas season we focus on what Christmas is and can be, not what it isn't.  Christmas is love, kindness, and a time for helping those in need.  God let us all remember this now and throughout the year.

Thursday, August 8, 2013


There are moments in life that are special.

There are moments in life that are common.

There are moments I will forever cherish.

There are moments I wish I could forget.

There are moments that change my life forever.

There are moments that hold me back.

There are moments that push me along.

There are moments that open doors.

There are moments that slam them shut.

There are moments of acceptance.

There are moments abandoned.

There are moments of creation.

There are moments of destruction.

There are moments filled with courage.

There are moments cornered by fear.

All of these moments are a part of me.  All of them helped me create who I am.  They do not define me, but are within me.  They are all Mine.

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

I Am. . .

I am a Woman.

I am a Wife and Lover.

I am a Mother who would kill to protect my babies.

I love to get dolled up.  Make up, Fancy Dress, high heeled shoes, curls in my hair, the whole shebang. 

I am an athlete. I am a Runner.

I am educated.  

I imagine, design, and create.  

I am a Friend.  

I have a divine roll within my life and family.  My role has been defined by myself, my Hubby, and my God.  Over the years, it has been co-provider, sole-provider, and stay at home Mom.  All at different times with different needs.  My role (along with my Hubby's role) is redefined every time we come upon a challenge within our life.  

I advocate Equal Rights.

I am a Feminist.

I am a Believer.

I am Me.

Monday, March 25, 2013

I Know My Place

The article "Woman, Know Thy Place" was published in the opinion section of Sunday's publication of the Salt Lake Tribune in response to another article posted earlier last week.  In the article, James Maples expresses his sorrow for the possible change of having women pray in the General Session of Conference this upcoming April.  Maples says,

"Woman was created for man; this world was made for men to lead households and prayers. Man was created in God’s image — not in a woman’s image."

Now, I am quite positive that I was not made just to serve my Husband.  I was not made to come running  every time he wants food, the cleaning done, and to take care of the kids.  I sure as Hell was NOT created to fulfill his sexual fantasies whenever he desires.  


If this world was made for men to lead households, then why aren't they AT HOME?  And while at home,  are they supposed to be the only ones praying or teaching the kids to pray?  Wait, was that before or after I came running to take care of the kids?  Men were not made to lead households and prayers.  They were made to experience joy with family and friends through service and love.  NOT through Tyranny.


Lets say for the sake of argument, that God is male.  Men were created in God's image.  So, whose image was every female created after?  Because last I checked, I have breasts and no penis.  Is it really all that horrific for women to yearn to understand and know their Heavenly Mother better?  There is not a doubt in my mind that She has never and will never cower before Her heavenly counterpart.  


I will not be an object.  I will be a respected member of society.
I will not be a shadow.  I will be a voice.
I will not be a doormat.  I will be a leader.


Friday, February 22, 2013

FMH Get Together

Last night I had the wonderful privilege of meeting some men and women that have similar feelings as I do toward the Church, it's teachings, and our interaction with it.  It was the breath of fresh air I needed to lighten my night.  I walked away completely rejuvenated and ready to take on the world.  I'm so excited to continue my new found friendships.

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Simply Stylish by Carrie Foster

Simply Stylish: How To Revamp Your Wardrobe For Chic Style At Any AgeSimply Stylish: How To Revamp Your Wardrobe For Chic Style At Any Age by Carrie Foster
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

This book was okay. I enjoyed the list of "must haves" for my closet, but felt like it was a bit like every other style book. Anyone can tell me to have neutrals in my clothing for classic looks. I was looking for a bit more when it came to "adding your own style." She mentions adding it, but doesn't talk about it.

I also felt that Age suggestions for clothing was going to be a large part of this book. It is in the sub-title. I don't think enough time was spent addressing age appropriate clothing.

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Forgive me for having a lot of book reviews lately, but I've been reading a ton.  Hopefully I can keep the reading up through out the year.  I don't think I've ever enjoyed reading as much as I am currently.  It is one of my goals this year; to read 100 books.  Here's to gettin' it done.

Monday, February 18, 2013

Project Conversion by Andrew Bowen

Project Conversion: One Man, 12 Faiths, One YearProject Conversion: One Man, 12 Faiths, One Year by Andrew Bowen
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This was a fantastic read. Quick read, easily understood, and emotionally moving. I would recommend this book for sure. Anyone interested in religion, experience, and transformation will surely love this book. LOVED it!

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Friday, February 15, 2013

Safe Haven by Nicholas Sparks

Safe HavenSafe Haven by Nicholas Sparks
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This was a fantastic read.  It was a suspenseful, thrilling love story.  I couldn't put it down.  I just had to know what happened next.  I can't wait to see the movie.  I hope it's as good as the book.

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